(Written October 14, 2019)
Y’all, my oldest son did something the other day and all I could do was laugh. I couldn’t even get mad at him, I just simply laughed. He later knocked on my bedroom door and asked me if I was mad and I started laughing again and told him that I wasn’t mad at him but more so disappointed…then we had a conversation. Boyyyyy I so was not ready nor was I prepared.
Communication is key with our children. Even if it’s small, communicate with them. Even the smallest conversation can open the door for your child to share what’s really on their hearts and minds.
There was a time when I would stray away from having the “hard” conversations with my children. I knew these conversations were necessary so that as a Mother, I could seek God for guidance and direction on how to continue to raise them properly but in a way I was scared.
You may wonder how do I know what’s going through my child’s mind. It’s easy! Start with asking them how their day is going, where they see themselves at when they get older, and how do they feel about certain subject matters, when children see that you are interested in having such conversations with them, they are then more capable of opening up more to you. Some children are a hard shell to crack I was that way but there’s always a way around it by simply asking questions. You don’t even have to start with questions, sometimes watching their favorite television show with them or playing a board game are awesome conversation starters.
This will not only help your child but as a single mother, it will help you as well. There’s healing in conversations, there’s understanding in conversations, chains can be broken, hearts can be mended, and amazing futures can be birthed out of conversations.
